Showing posts with label Julia Child. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Julia Child. Show all posts

Yours Truly, Ashley


Julia Child and Avis DeVoto were more than pen pals, more than best friends, they were soul-mates. Our friends are a reflection of who we are and our soul-mates can be best friends who bring out all our good qualities. Julia and Avis built their friendship with the art of letter writing. Sometimes you just know when you've made a special connection. Their letters discuss all kinds of topics: shallots, beurre blanc, dried herbs, McCarthy paranoia politics of postwar Europe, personal chaos, theater, books, aging, even sex.

Our true thoughts come out on paper. It's easy to get a feel of what someone is really like in a letter. You see personality in the handwriting, phrasing of thoughtful words, and punctuation marks. As Always, Julia is not a novel but a truly wonderful book of letters between best friends; this is the kind of book you want to share- and then write a letter to your best friend instead of emailing her.

We are so deeply entrenched in technology that letter writing can seem sadly outdated compared to using a cell phone to text, tweet, or call. None of those methods of communication equal the delight and satisfaction you get from receiving a real letter. Technology produces an emotional distance; unlike a letter that you can smell, feel, and see the beauty in the choice of stationary (even the stamp). With our busy schedules, sometimes it's easier to keep up with our friends through writing. It's not always possible to have a conversation while coordinating dinner and children's bedtimes but afterward I very much enjoy sitting down to write to a friend. It's a release and a joy!
When I was little I used to love walking to the mailbox and I'd cross my fingers hoping there would be a letter in there for me! Reading As Always, Julia I was very much inspired to write to a friend.

I wonder what Julia would have thought of Facebook and Twitter. It's my guess that she would have liked them because she loved people and loved to write, learn and keep up with her friends. I doubt she would have loved it though because it's so much more impersonal than a letter. Letters are a lost art! In this time of bite sized tweets, texts, and emails we have forgotten how special it once was to receive a thoughtful letter, not thank you note, a real letter. A letter is but a talk on paper. Why are letters so hard for some people? Is it because technology makes everything so choppy? Twitter only allows space for 140 characters. You really can't say much, even in a direct message! My motto for writing is always (like Nike) "just do it," because you're in the moment and it sounds real.

I always had pen pals growing up and I attribute my love of writing to a love of having a written conversation. Writing is so easy when you care about the person you are addressing. Avis said, "I suppose one reason we can write so easily to each other is that, for one, we have established the rhythm, and for another, that our lives are not much involved with each other, actually. Perhaps if we lived next door, we would have developed curtains and veils and various tender heels. Anyway, it is lovely to be perfectly at ease and to be able to discuss anything at all; and may it remain ever so!

If you want a letter, you have to send a letter and begin the circle of communication. I have a former student, Savanna, who writes to me occasionally. Her letters are little treasures full of innocence and even a little German! Fostering a love of letter writing is easy if your children see you doing it too. I very much encourage children to write "free flow" style because like writing in a journal, they develop their voice and will start to enjoy it just as they do when they've just checked out a new library book.

It's great fun to read Avis and Julia's friendship build in the letters. Their correspondence was really just by accident. Julia had admired a column in Harper's about knives that Avis DeVoto's husband, magazine journalist Bernard DeVoto wrote. Julia was living in Paris at the time and wrote Mr. DeVoto a letter to thank him for his article, Avis, who handled most of her husband's mail, wrote back. The two hit it off instantly. Their forty plus year friendship begins with Dear Mrs. and eventually Dearest friend. I love how Avis ends her letters lashings of love. These were women who were highly intelligent, strongly opinionated, extremely witty and who loved each other very much.

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I absolutely adore Julia Child and think of her as Our Lady of Butter and Vermouth. Julia is my personal hero for teaching me to savor life and find my joie de vivre. She was a totally charming woman and I wish I could have met her. While reading this book, I laughed out loud several times; these are a few of my favorites Julia quotes:

People who love to eat are always the best people.
About her body, Julia writes: Bosom not as copious as she would wish, but has noticed that Botticelli bosoms are not big either.
I had intended to be a great woman novelist, but for some reason The New Yorker didn't ask me to be on its staff.
Before marriage I was wildly interested in sex, but since joining up with my old goat, it has taken its proper position in my life.
I think one should get one's vitamins in salads, and raw fruits, and what is cooked should be absolutely delicious and to hell with the vitamins.
If you have knives you certainly don't need tomato slicers, parsley choppers, onion choppers, etc.

About a hostess Julia says:Be advised never to say anything about what she serves, in the way of "oh, I don't know how to cook, and this may be awful," or "poor little me," or "this didn't turn out" ...etc. etc. It is so dreadful to have to reassure one's hostess that everything is delicious, whether or not it is. I make it a rule, no matter what happens, never to say one word, though it kills me. Maybe the cat has fallen in the stew, or I have put the lettuce out the window and it has frozen, or the meat is not quite done...Grit one's teeth and smile. It ain't French, it ain't good, and the hell with it.

Avis was an excellent first editor. Prior to reading As Always, Julia I knew lots about Julia Child but none about her best friend, Avis. She is fascinating and I really enjoyed getting to know her from her letters. She was extremely smart (reading nine newspapers a day) and busy (conversing with people at Harvard and in the New York publishing field). Avis was a huge help in getting Julia's magnum opus, Mastering the Art of French Cooking published.

Their friendship lasted until the end. They wished they'd found each other, and shared their love for food earlier in their lives. Don't wait to start writing; just like Julia and Avis, you might send or receive a letter worth saving.
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Cheers to Breakfast!


The day can leave me feeling spent! It doesn't matter if it's a workday or weekday. At the end of the day, I'm exhausted! That's why I love the morning! It's a fresh start, nothing has gone wrong, and everything could go right! Making breakfast can be a fun family affair! We can get so many vitamins and so much energy in the morning with breakfast and it's nice to start the day off right for our children.

For a great breakfast I think you need a little of everything: fruit, fresh eggs, grains, yogurt, and juice or a smoothie. Julia Child is my patron saint of cooking in the kitchen, and like "Our Lady of Butter", I like real food! We like whole milk , whole yogurt and real butter in our house. But, my husband and I always manage to balance the healthy with the not so healthy, especially at breakfast. It's nice to have children develop a natural taste palate, because it's all about the taste! My daughter loves to be involved in the kitchen, especially at breakfast time. She is learning to cook and loves it!

I am a kitchen gadget girl! Pregnant with my first child, my husband bought me a Breville juicer for my birthday. It's my favorite toy! Fresh juice in the morning seems like a magical ingredient to the day. Apples and pears are my favorite to mix in my Breville. My daughter calls this "pearple juice".

The days I don't make juice, we like smoothies. Smoothies should start with yogurt then you can add whatever you have in the kitchen: bananas, blueberries, blackberries, strawberries, raspberries...Then you can finish with some different ingredients that can make a powerful smoothie! A handful of spinach and goji berries. What better time than in the morning to get greens in your children's bellies?

I like spinach because it's loaded with iron. Since it's just a handful, you can't taste it! And if you use blueberries and blackberries, the color comes out purple so it's pretty! Goji berries which are loaded with antioxidants and have multiple benefits like helping eyesight, boosting the immune system, improving circulation, and promoting longevity. They're also wonderful in hot tea. A smoothie can be sweetened with maple syrup, peanut butter, honey or Nutella. It's easy and fast to drink your nutrients and fun to toast to our health in the morning with a breakfast drink!

I think maple syrup is magical! A good source of zinc, it protects the immune system, and supports healing. I feel good giving it to my children and like to add it as a sweetener to everything from oatmeal, tea, sweet potatoes, and even broccoli!

We have breakfast weekday staples in our house, like old fashioned oatmeal and Cream of Wheat (my daughter calls it crème de wheat). We make it with whole milk and add real butter and cream. It's hearty, healthy, and sticks with us until lunch. For the weekend we like to make Dutch Apple pancakes, sweet potato waffles, or crepes. Toasted nuts and fresh fruit are good on all of the above. On special occasions my specialty is a Tomato Strata, always crowd pleasing and comforting. There's no gastronomic boredom going on in our house! The kitchen is the most popular place.

Tea has such historic rituals. It's one of the oldest and most worldly drinks from China to England. To me there's nothing more wonderful than my ritual of a good cup of hot tea and the newspaper on a Sunday morning. My favorite tea is by far Mariage Frères Éros. When I was pregnant, I would only drink tisanes. Dean and Deluca's Peppermint Tisane is perfect for this time of year.


Fresh eggs are the ultimate! Once you've had fresh eggs, you don't go back. The color of a fresh egg is a beautiful, vivid orange. It's such a happy color! It is the color Widow Clicquot designed her Veuve Clicquot champagne labels. Everything about fresh eggs feels right! Lorraine, (the lady I buy them from) has Rhode Island Red hens and one very special hen that lays green eggs! It is so much fun to cook green eggs and ham with my daughter! She calls it, "egg crackin"!

Over the summer I would take my children to Lorraine's house to pick up eggs. My daughter would be so excited to go to "the egg lady's" house and see the chicks! It's nice for our kids to see where food comes from. I think they appreciate it more.

Photo: This Rhode Island hen named Sparrow lays green eggs!
My friend Craig, who is a chef, says this about breakfast, "I have several breakfasts that I love to make for the kiddos. A classic is the egg in a hole; where you cookie cut a hole in the middle of two slices of bread, use a dab of butter in a non stick skillet, and while the bread is toasting, crack an egg in each hole. Our eight year old loves the occasional quail egg on her plate. They are so cute and tiny!"

When children in school are about to take a big test; teachers, counselors, principals all encourage parents to make sure their child has a healthy breakfast. I'll sometimes have children come up to me in the morning and tell me they're so tired! My first question to them is, "Did you eat breakfast?" Have you heard the Spanish proverb, "The belly rules the mind?" I know it can be a battle at home to get children to eat. Sometimes I'm lucky if my three year old takes a couple of bites. This is another reason I like to drink part of my breakfast. It's portable and my daughter and son can sip on it in the car. I can't make them eat, but my hope is with this ritual of breakfast they will grow up wanting it and someday be able to make it themselves.

Starting our day right can boost our energy, increase our attention span, and give us and our children a sense of well being. And, the family fun in preparation and eating around the table together is the cherry on top. Think about the memories you have of the holidays in the morning... It's all about the food, right? The kitchen always provides the ambience: the fun in preparation, good smells coming from the oven, music and laughter in the background, good conversations with your children, a nice cup of something. It's the best way to start the day. These are thoughts and ideas, some of which I have learned from others. Take what you like and leave the rest on the table!

Ashley's Tomato Strata
1 loaf of sourdough bread sliced
8 oz cream cheese, cubed
8 oz fresh mozzerella cheese, torn
4 oz Swiss cheese
Basil pesto (see below)
12 slices prosciutto, sliced thin
5-6 Roma tomatoes, sliced thin
6 fresh eggs
1 cup cream
1 cup milk
Salt and pepper

Arrange bread slices on the bottom of a buttered casserole dish. Top with half of cream cheese, mozzarella, swiss cheese, pesto, prosciutto, and tomatoes. Repeat so you have two layers. Whisk eggs, milk, cream, salt, and pepper and pour over strata. Cover and chill overnight. Before baking sprinkle with herbs de provence and bake at 350 degrees for about 1 hour. Let the strata rest for 10 minutes before unmolding.

Ashley's Pesto
Blend until smooth:
2 cups fresh basil
¼ cup toasted pine nuts
1 garlic clove
Salt and Pepper
½ parmesan cheese
2/3 cup extra virgin olive oil

Pulse basil, pinenuts, garlic, salt, and pepper in blender or cuisinart until finely chopped. With the blender still running, gradually add olive oil. Mix in Parmesan by hand.

Julia Child and food for thought


"Julia Child said, "I see every recipe as a little short story." What an inspiration she was! She had a zest for life! As the French say, joie de vivre! This blog is for anyone who cares about food, cooking, and friendship.

Blogging is like having a weekly lunch with girlfriends and writing about what we talk about. Well, I don't know anyone who has time for a weekly lunch with their friends like they do in the show Sex in the City! The book club my friends and I created, The Julia Child Book Club, meets seasonally. This gives us time to read and decide what to bring to the table. Our conversations gradually build into some lively and simulating discussion (sometimes encouraged by some really great wine or champagne)! We go back and forth to the books and food but also our own relationships and our own life.

The other thing I love is I'm broadening my literary knowledge and expanding my culinary skills. Someone might pick out a book I would never have thought to read, or a cuisine I've never thought to try. It gets me thinking outside the (lunch) box. But, more than anything it's about enjoying the company of friends. Women need that! It's easy to get stuck in a rut of the same old recipes and routines. It's also good for your children to see you get creative in the kitchen too! Who knows? You could inspire them to try something different!

As a working mom I find I need little outlets that remind me of who I am. For me I find a little daily Pilates can center me, a once a week ballet class can make me a better wife and mother, and looking forward to The Julia Child Book Club is just the icing on the cake! It provides me with a creative cooking outlet and gets me reading! We all need something to look forward to. I used to look forward to travel. Now with two small children, two jobs, and a rotten economy, this is just not possible! Cooking can be meditative, and reading an escape.

I think reading a good book can provide the same kind of nourishment as eating a good meal. And, when you can share a good book and a meal with family and friends, you are nourishing your mind, body, and soul.

Food and books have always been a passion of mine. But, there's something about sharing it with friends that makes it even better! Our Julia Child Book Club is small (no more than 8) so that everyone can entertain comfortably. It's very causal and relaxed! As a teacher, I knew I did not want it to feel like the classroom. There are no planned questions. We might not always like or even finish the book but, like I said it's very relaxed! We are connected through our love for cooking and reading. We drink, talk, and enjoy each others company before we have to go back to work and our daily routine.

I've always had a fascination with Julia Child. She is our patron chef! That's why it's called "The Julia Child Book Club"!! Julia Child said, "Find something you're passionate about and keep tremendously interested in it." These are words to live by.

If you like to cook and read I hope this will inspire you to get your friends together once in a while to learn from each other, eat a fabulous meal, but most importantly...laugh!

As Julia always said at the end of The French Chef cooking show, Bon Appetit! If you like this idea might I suggest starting with Julie and Julia: My Year of Cooking Dangerously and Julia Child's My Life in France, then you and your girlfriends could go see the movie together next month.

Looking for more ideas? Here is what The Julia Child Book Club has read so far: The Sharper Your Knife, The Less You Cry (French Cuisine), There's a (Slight) Chance I Might Be Going to Hell (healthy), Eat, Pray, Love (Italian), Wicked (spooky), My Sister's Keeper (New England), Julia Child's My Life in France (French), The Secret Life of Bees (southern), The Widow Clicquot and Abundance (French country).