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The Passion for literature and the romance of letters


My friend Pamela gave me a great gift…a very special book that came all the way from Paris’ famous Shakespeare and Company bookshop. A little water damage makes this book even more of a treasure because it’s a paperback that has been loved. The book, 84, Charing Cross Road is easily on my top books ever read list! It’s real people writing letters to each other and developing a beautiful friendship all the way across the big blue ocean…it’s so romantic! 

I’ve always believed in the power of correspondence and I very much enjoy reading books that are a series of letters. Recently I’ve read three books that are a series of beautiful letters: 84, Charing Cross Road, The Guernsey Literary and Potato Peel Pie Society, and As Always, Julia. Each book begins the same way…the characters all receive a letter from a stranger and their correspondence leads to a lasting and true friendship. It is possible to form lasting and deep relationships with people that we have never physically met.

84, Charing Cross Road is a charming book about an outspoken New York writer (Helene Hanff) whose touching correspondence with antiquarian booksellers in London (especially with Frank Doel) develops such a mutually fostering friendship that they become an extended family. Exchanges between Helene Hanff and the Marks & Co. booksellers at 84 Charing Cross Road are all letters and books.
I found the book to be romantic in the sense that their fondness for each other expanded over time, the romance of the cities New York and London are vividly described, the yarn of letters and books flying or sailing across the sea, and there is also a mystery associated with them not officially meeting that I find romantic.
There could have been a potential for romance between Frank Doel and Helene Hanff but I found them to truly care for each other as friends first. There is an unspoken love for each other without ever seeing each other. It’s a real-life love story.
When reading the private letters of Helene and Frank, the reader gets a taste of cultural and social differences that were commonplace in the 40’s, 50’s and 60’s in London and New York.
Their correspondence went on from 1949 to 1969. Throughout twenty years they exchanged Christmas gifts, news of families and careers. There was always an intention for them to meet but something came in the way every time it almost happened.
A lesson to this is that if there’s something you really want to do, do it when you have the chance or you might miss a grand opportunity.
Through Hanff’s book, the reader is reintroduced to all sorts of old classics with her passion for literature and made to feel inspired not only to write a letter to a friend, but to read a book with either a cup of tea (like Frank did in London) or a cigarette and martini (like Helene did in New York).
There was a lovely movie starring Anne Bancroft and Anthony Hopkins that followed the book beautifully. Anne Bancroft is saucy and spirited just like I imagined Helene Hanff to be.
Hanff’s personality is humorous, demanding, witty and sarcastic whereas, Doel is the classic English gentleman. Hanff playfully begins one letter in all caps, “SLOTH: I could ROT over here before you’d send me anything to read.” Toward the end of their correspondence Hanff writes, “Frankie, you’re the only soul alive who understands me.”
If you’re lucky enough to find an edition of 84, Charing Cross Road that comes with the companion book The Duchess of Bloomsbury, you will love reading them back to back.
Another book I recently enjoyed that is also a series of letters and similar and many ways to 84, Charing Cross Road was The Guernsey Literary and Potato Peel Pie Society. Set in post WWII England, it is based around Juliet Ashton, a writer with sharp wit, and a love of books. When Juliet receives a letter from a stranger in Guernsey, a correspondence begins with not just one, but many Guernsey islanders.
One of my favorite quotes from The Guernsey Literary and Potato Peel Pie Society that I completely resonate with is, “That’s what I love about reading: one tiny thing will interest you in a book, and that tiny thing will lead you onto another book, and another bit there will lead you onto a third book. It’s geometrically progressive—all with no end in sight, and for no other reason than sheer enjoyment.”
One last book recommendation that is a series of letters and friendship is As Always, Julia. Julia Child and Avis DeVoto based their friendship on the art of letter writing before they ever met.  I previously wrote about it here
All three books are written with warmth and humor. They have in common that they each find inspiration in the letters to each other, not just for their work, but inspiration for their life.
Through the three books the reader will get a sense of how the power of books and letters sustain readers in good times and in bad. The books celebrate letters in the best possible way. I always look forward to seeing what the closing will be. My favorite closing came from Julia Child’s best friend Avis: Lashings of love. Who doesn’t enjoy reading about collecting books and the pleasures of reading?
I wish for you that you have time to read these books but also find time to write to your friends…do it now, don’t wait! 
As for Pamela’s book, it’s meant to be shared with someone else now. I think I’ll send it by mail…with a letter.







Happiness is...

Americans like to smile; we like to be happy! It’s a good thing we are a culture with the best dental hygiene because smiling is something we do well. I think of the French who are not big into smiles (or teeth). Luc Tessier in the movie French Kiss says, When people tell me they are happy, my ass begins to twitch. This makes me laugh and want to smile even more! When Americans are not happy we are very good at fixing it and if you don’t want to fix it, well people will just assume you are French!
I think there’s a recipe for happiness just like your grandmother’s cookies, they’re not that hard to bake and when you make them, everyone’s glad!
All recipes begin with the ingredients; the same is true for happiness. A recipe for happiness might go something like this...add a heaping cup of family and friends, a cup full of meaningful work, a dash of optimism, a sprinkle of gratefulness, plenty of forgiveness, a generous amount of giving, and two hands full of spirituality. You can’t find these ingredients in your pantry or buy them at the store, but you do have them at your fingertips should you choose to use them.
It seems that the happiest people surround themselves with family and friends; this is a sure-fire way to find happiness and to feel fully alive. Happy people don’t spend very much time alone; they like to be around the ones they love. Someone who is cheerful probably tends to have strong relationships with those who share their joy, sorrow, and stress…It’s a wonderful thing to invest in relationships with your friends, it’s a bonus if your friends are naturally happy people.  
There are some people who manage to always look on the bright side. We may not all be as sunny and optimistic as the famous Pollyanna character but we can find her same enthusiasm for life if we can play the ‘glad game’ every now and then. Think about something you’re grateful for and voila, you’re smiling!
Grateful people are happy people. To me, gratitude is best expressed in writing letters, journaling, or even an email or a text to tell someone you love them, this can make you and that person feel better in an instant.
I find when I get really into a project or activity, I lose all track of time, stop worrying and just enjoy the moment. This is when I think busy schedules are a good thing; life’s many activities bring great satisfaction. I find this happens to me when doing enjoyable daily tasks too…dancing, playing with my children, writing, reading are all things I can lose myself in. Taking time away from other important things like work is good for our soul.
People feel happiest when they’re doing what they do best…work or play. I think you will agree with me that we should all have more fun and less stress. If you love your work and it’s meaningful, that plays a huge factor, but equal parts play and work are what equals happiness. I’m sure Freud would agree when he said, Love and work…work and love, that’s all there is.
There’s a bigger chance that you will be happier if you don’t spend too much time alone. It’s a good thing to accept social invitations, initiate social get-togethers, have face-to-face time rather than online time, and hug your family and friends. Nurture your relationships; having tons of friends could never compare to those few very close friendships that consistently make you happy. When I’m having a bad day, I like to relive a good memory spent with friends and family. 
Another way to get happy is to forgive. It may be extremely hard to do and take some time but once we forgive those who have hurt us, our hearts are happier.
Spirituality contributes to our happiness, believing in something higher gives us direction and purpose and it just feels right.
A few weeks ago, most of the world watched the Royal Wedding with great joy. This one wedding made people all over the world so happy and gave us optimism and a reason to celebrate with the world. I think most people look forward to the next big celebration that brings us all together like the Olympics.

Quotes to inspire and make you feel happy:

The best way to cheer yourself up, is to try and cheer somebody else up. Mark Twain

Whoever said you can’t buy happiness forgot about puppies. Gene Hill
The happiest of people don’t necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way.  Anonymous
Happiness is like a butterfly which, when pursued, is always beyond our grasp, but, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you. Nathaniel Hawthorne
Let us be grateful to people who make us happy, they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom. Marcel Proust
Questions to ponder… When have you been the happiest? To get you thinking here’s some food for thought with three top five happy lists from my husband, my daughter, and me. Can you guess which list belongs to whom?
1.       a to do list that’s already been done
2.       the feeling after an intense work out
3.       bedtime rituals with our children
4.       a night without doing dishes
5.       seeing the lights turn on in our children

1.       birthday cake
2.       balloons
3.       kites
4.       Hello Kitty
5.       parties

1.       the beach
2.       hugs
3.       pink peonies
4.       the sound of music and laughter
5.       being skin to skin with my babies
What’s on your happy list?


Live, Laugh, Love


There are many celebratory songs that can make us smile and feel grateful for where we are now in life. For me, one of the most popular may be Celebrate good times come on! Let's celebrate We hear that song at most weddings. For my friend, Laurie, celebrating ten years of being cancer free, I thought of Cyndi Lauper's Time after Time... 

if you're lost you can look--and you will find me
time after time
if you fall I will catch you--I'll be waiting
time after time




Laurie had a roomful of people who would "catch " her Friday morning during a surprise birthday party before school. Honoring her struggle with cancer and celebrating life was truly a miracle and cause for celebration. Laurie found out she had inflammatory breast cancer on her thirtieth birthday; it was stage 3B and she only had a four percent survival rate.

Laurie had mentioned the day of her "cancerversary" how she had been blessed with two families, one at home and one at work. This is so true; we will always have the support of our families, and if you are so lucky, those friendly faces at work you see everyday become your family too.


Laurie said in a letter to her school family, "I hope you will take this opportunity to count YOUR blessings. Even if you are going through a difficult time this season, look closer at how God is working in your life. I don't know why He chose to allow me to survive, nor do I know if the cancer will return, but I know I will continue to give Him my praise."

This is the season for us to celebrate life and its many blessings. Laurie is an inspiration and a reminder to honor those true values in life, our family, friends, and our relationship with God.

Winston Churchill said, "Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference."There are a million things to feel good about in a day. So much of the fight with cancer is about attitude. Something I have always admired about Laurie is her willingness to do for others. It's people like her that make the world a better place.

There are times when words can't describe feelings as well as art can. Sometimes art can move us in ways that we didn't know were possible to feel; art can be a tap into our emotions. I remember last year seeing a dance piece on So You Think You Can Dance about a woman facing breast cancer. This piece expresses the message of hope, frustration, anguish, and love; it is one of the most moving dance performances ever! It's impossible not to feel a million emotions all at once watching this beautiful dance.

The art of living is like a dance that may not have been choreographed; we are all dancers! There are lines in Kate Bush's Woman's Work like, "Pray God you can cope" and "Just make it go away" that resonate with the emotions experienced by those dealing with cancer. At the end of this dance, you see the person who loves her catch and carry her; that's what friends and family do! Then she looks up to the sky and you know she has a relationship with God. There's a passage that starts, Don't worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need and thank him for all he has done. Thank you God for Laurie; she is a gift to so many!
Live, laugh, love everyday!

Reserve Your Night

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I remember eating outside at Ambasciata D'Abruzzo, a restaurant near Rome, and the waiter brought me and my husband a giant platter of antipasti and some of their house wine. We were so content I think we may have taken off our shoes! This is my favorite kind of meal, a casual family style meal with antipasti and a good table wine. http://www.ambasciatadiabruzzo.com/

Yellow Tail Reserve wine and their new site ReserveYourNight.com brought four friends together for a summer night of spa, movie, and food (a mini staycation). It was the take off your shoes kind of atmosphere. Who needs to go out when you can gather together with your closest friends to put on a mask or two (or five) and watch a movie with some fabulous food and company?!?
I love wine; I love the way it brings out the flavor in food, the many varieties that it comes in, and the opportunities it provides to visit another country through a bottle. What I love the most is the number of different and pleasant ways that wine brings people together around the table.
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This inexpensive evening was a treat and I'd say more fun than going out to the movies or a commercial spa because we could talk to our friends, enjoy wine, get beautiful, and see a movie all in one evening. It's a bonus if your friends like to cook like mine do. Our Yellow Tail Reserve went perfectly with chicken pasta salad and blueberry cobbler.

I love movies about wine: Sideways, French Kiss, A Good Year, Bottle Shock, and Apres Vous are some of my favorites. However, my friends and I had just seen ABBA in concert and decided to watch Mamma Mia. Seeing the Greek islands on the big screen provided us the perfect spa environment. The art of tasting wine involves the sight, smell, and taste senses.

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One of my favorite movies is French Kiss. In the movie both characters (Meg Ryan and Kevin Kline) compare wine to people. Two of my favorite lines in French Kiss that I know by heart are: "Wine is like people. The wine takes all the influences in life all around it, it absorbs them and it gets its personality." -Luc (Kevin Kline) When Luc asks Kate to describe the wine she says, "It's a bold wine with a hint of sophistication and lacking in pretension. Actually, I was just talking about myself." -Kate (Meg Ryan)

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It's so funny because it's true, wine IS like people! We can use the same adjectives to describe wine as we can for people: elegant, complex, bright, peachy, fruity, nice, bold, rich, smooth, full-bodied, earthy, sweet, bubbly, mature...

I have read that Australia is one of the most technologically advanced wine countries in the world. Yellow Tail Reserve is the perfect table wine. What's better news is that it's available everywhere, reasonably priced, and pleasing to the senses. My friend Margot said she liked the Yellow Tail Reserve Cabernet Sauvignon because it is really nice and fruity. What's funny is that in a separate conversation my friend Jen said almost the same thing, that the same wine was light and fruity! I found Yellow Tail's Reserve Cabernet Sauvignon to be silky and elegant. I tend to drink wine seasonally; cold white wine in the summer is what I enjoy now. My friends and I also sampled a Yellow Tail Reserve Pinot Grigio which is my favorite wine. It is soft and easy on the palate.

I will never be like Paul Giamatti, sticking my nose deep in my glass and saying something like, "there's the faintest soupçon of asparagus!" But those who drink wine know what they like just as you know if you prefer mild to sharp cheddar or milk to dark chocolate. Taste is emotional and personal. I believe any wine that taste good to you is a good wine.

When preparing beauty treatments for our spa/movie night I followed the same wine cooking rule: Never cook with wine you wouldn't drink! I didn't make a beauty treatment that I couldn't eat. I used fresh quality ingredients and I really think they worked! My four year old daughter got in on the action when I was in the kitchen blending up masks. What do you think her favorite was? Chocolate! The good news is that everything was edible. My daughter actually wanted a bowl full of the avocado mask to dip her chips into while she also wore it on her face!

I hope you will be inspired to "Reserve your Night" and try a spa/movie night with your friends before summer ends. AND...If you have children, let them get in on the action with you testing out the beauty treatments before your friends arrive! You will be glad you did!
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Watermelon Toner
Half of a small fresh watermelon
¼ C vodka
4 Tablespoons witch hazel
Blend ingredients and use cotton balls to apply. Store in fridge. Keeps approximately one week.

PINEAPPLE OLIVE OIL MASK
Pineapple helps rid the skin of dead cells and dirt and is a mild astringent. Olive oil has excellent healing properties and is a good source of vitamin E, which restores the skin's surface.
In a blender, combine 1 fresh pineapple 1/3 C olive oil. Blend until almost smooth. Apply mixture to face with fingertips and leave on for 15 minutes. Rinse face with warm water and pat dry. The acidity may make your face feel itchy so I suggest following with the soothing avocado mask.

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AVOCADO CARROT CREAM MASK
This mask combines avocados, which are rich in Vitamin E, with carrots, which are high in beta-carotene and antioxidants, and cream, which is high in calcium and protein. These ingredients will rebuild skin collagen, improve tone and texture, and fade age spots.
2 avocados, mashed
½ banana
1 carrot, cooked and mashed
1/2 cup heavy cream
2 eggs, beaten
3 tablespoons honey
2 T cottage cheese
Combine all ingredients in a bowl until smooth. Spread gently over your face and neck, and leave in place 10-15 minutes.

Chocolate Facial Mask
This creamy mask is an excellent moisturizer, leaving your skin baby soft.
1/3 cup cocoa powder
3 tbsp. heavy cream
2 tsp. cottage cheese
¼ cup honey
3 tsp. oatmeal
Mix all ingredients together in a blender and smooth onto face. Relax for ten 10 minutes (enjoy the smell), then wash off with warm water.

Cucumber Hair Drench
If you swim in a chlorinated pool for exercise on a regular basis, the same damage you've noticed happening to your skin and bathing suit, is happening to your hair, as well. Try this treatment at home to keep chlorine damage to a minimum.
2 eggs
¼ C olive oil
1 peeled cucumber
Blend until smooth. Spread evenly through your hair, leave on for 10 minutes, and then thoroughly rinse.

Celebrate Friendship with SATC2



Sex and the City is a celebration of friendship, love and soul mates. Women have a craving for love that our friends can sometimes fill in different ways than the men in our lives. These four characters make up a complete woman that most females can relate to. They are hard working, very smart, and feminine too!

Friendship is good for the heart! The bond between close girlfriends can help our health with a multitude of things: stress, depression, weight loss, heart disease and help us live longer, fuller and happier lives. Our friends make our lives better! In SATC2 Samantha reminds the girls, "We made a deal ages ago, men, babies doesn't matter, we're soul mates." It's a rare and special thing to find a soul mate in a friend and when we do we must cherish that friendship! I see these four characters like a little sorority, or as my friend Margot would say, "It's a family we choose." I don't know about you but I need my friends to stay sane! I'm envious of the amount of time these characters have together. Face-to face time can't compare to Facebook and texting.

Watching SATC all these years I feel less guilt and more freedom to complain to my friends. We don't have to hold everything in and deal with it ourselves. When we get to talk to our girlfriends about our lives like Carrie, Samantha, Charlotte, and Miranda do over brunch then we are able to pick ourselves up and carry on with life. Women can turn to each other to reestablish a sense of balance when we feel like we might fall off the wall! It's our friends who remind us of who we really are!

I recently took a SATC quiz to find out which character I am the most like; it turns out I am Charlotte. I think most moms are Charlotte (she's the most relatable one)! Well I may be Charlotte, but I have Carrie's shoes! The thing I dislike most about Charlotte is her struggle to be perfect! It's hardest for her to let go and just be. When I feel like this, a cosmo calls my name!

I loved the talk between Miranda and Charlotte expressing what they truly feel about motherhood. Sometimes it's hard to admit that you need a break. But it's honest and that's what friends are for. My friend Jen and I had such a great talk after seeing this movie together. We've been friends since the fifth grade and are both working moms with young children. Seeing this movie together and then having some time to bond really was like a little vacation; an enormous, extravagant, fantasy of a vacation. For a few hours Jen and I got to escape to NYC and Abu Dhabi. It was fabulous!


My husband was a little jealous! He loves Sex and the City and wanted to join us! He helped pick out my outfit! I thought of the line Carrie said when I was with Jen, "There's always one thing you should take out with you on a Saturday night, your friends!"

I had just graduated from college when the show came out. I watched the show single, then married, then married with children. I feel like Carrie, Samantha, Charlotte and Miranda are my friends. We've grown together.

I read that Sarah Jessica Parker said, "I really love how these women love each other and how decent and honorable they are toward one another. They were never made to be friends -- their DNA is so radically different and they have found this incomparable friendship that is truly inspiring to me. It changes the way I think about my friendships constantly." One of the best things friends can do is have FUN!! These women must have masters degrees in having fun. They spend a lot of their time together laughing hard -- that's easy for friends to do.

Watching SATC2 I laughed after a conversation between Carrie and Big about eating something they had at home instead of going out Carrie says, "You knew when I married you I was more Coco Chanel than coq au vin." If you watched the show, you might remember how Carrie used her oven for storing sweaters! My Mom has a friend that likes to say the only reason she has an oven is because it "came with the kitchen."

Big is that "it" guy, the one most women fantasize about. I love the way he says, "Hey Babe!" I was a total sucker for Aleksandr Petrovsky (played by Mikhail Baryshnikov)! I love his Russian accent and the fact that he was an artist didn't hurt. In SATC2 Samantha's love interest was hmmm...really handsome! Max Ryan is an actor I'd like to see again.

Patricia Field is a genius! She also ruined me for life! When visiting NYC one of my favorite things to do is shop (have I mentioned I'm a teacher)!?! One of the most beautiful places on Earth is the Manolo Blahnik store! Candy for your feet! Once you have that really good shoe experience, you're going to do it again and again! Fashion models life's view of art! You can tell a great story and be someone that people yearn to know more about with the clothes you choose. I always loved the fact that Carrie dressed for herself, and I like to think I do that! Patricia Field has made fashion fun, creative, and mistake free.

I loved hearing Cyndi Lauper's, True Colors song in the show. If this world makes you crazy and you've taken all you can bear you call me up because you know I'll be there. Friendship is a beautiful thing! No matter the age, religion, sexual preference; your friends love you for who you are on the inside. The core of SATC is friendship.

Care to test your knowledge with a little SATC trivia?

1. Of the four female stars in the series, which actress was the only one to have a 'no full nudity' clause in her contract?
2. What shoes did Carrie find in the fabled Vogue Closet?
3. What is the name of Charlotte's puppy?
4. What gets stolen from Carrie at a friend's baby shower?
5. What can Miranda finally fit into?
6. How does Burger break up with Carrie?
7. In the final episode, Mr. Big's first name is revealed. What is it?
8. Who said, "Soul mates only exist in the Hallmark aisle of Duane Reade Drugs?"
9. "If I spent forty-thousand dollars on shoes and I have no place to live, I will literally be the old women who lived in her shoes."
10. What newspaper does Carrie writes a column for?
11. Where does Mr. Big move?
12. What magazine do Trey and Charlotte pose for in their apartment?
13. Who hits on Mr. Big first?
14. Where does Charlotte hide her "rabbit?"
15. Who does Steve name his bar after?

Friendship is a gift we should treasure like our health


I recently read an article in the Argyle Sun Newspaper about a 101-year-old woman who credits her longevity to her friendships. After I read it I said to my friend Laurie, "I think this woman is right, the secret to living to be 100 is friendship! Just look at Georgie (click here for the article).

I have heard that older people with a strong circle of friends are more likely to live longer. I think this must be true. Have you ever noticed how much information there is about families and marriage but not as much on friendship? Friendship is definitely an undervalued resource. Our friends make our life better. The trick is finding time to foster these relationships.
Friends are protective and nurturing. Think about who walks in Relay for Life? A multitude of supportive friends! Friends can run errands and pick up medicine if you're sick, bring a meal when you've just had a baby, be there through laughter and tears. I think those who have strong friendships are less likely to get sick because they have a lower stress level. A friend is like a free psychiatrist. Friends who have a strong bond know they have someone to turn to, always!

The same day I read about 101-year-old Georgie I went to hear a speaker at the school where I teach talk about how to live to be 100. It was such a coincidence that I was with my dear friend! Dr. Joe had some valuable things to say, but I kept waiting for him to say the secret to living long was love and friendship. That was not on Dr Joe's five factors to living to be 100! He talked about a healthy body, not a happy heart. I know in MY heart we need both!

I was so tickled at my friend who had agreed to come with me. Before hearing Dr. Joe, we attended a PTA meeting. We kept finding humor in random parts of the meeting and we ended up passing notes back and forth like teenagers. When we stood to say the Pledge of Allegiance, I couldn't help but think I already know the secret to a long life: laugh, smile, have fun, enjoy each other while we are here! We can't always be worrying about not exercising enough or eating the right things. That's not what life is about! Even if we don't make it to 100, why not just live large now and keep laughing with our friends.

My husband says, "I know how to live to be 100...have lots of sex!" Well, I think he's probably right about that. I know my schedule may become more challenging after he reads that I agree with him. We've all heard how sex increases how long we live. The reason is the body needs intimacy and bonding. There is such value in touch! Think about animals and babies...they need touch to develop. I tend to cup my hands around my children's faces when I'm talking to them. I know I have their full attention and they know they have mine. More importantly, I do it because I want them to feel my love.

I can't help but think of another Joe, Joseph Pilates. He believed our physical and mental health is intertwined. He was so right! Pilates lived to be 87. I LOVE that Joseph Pilates lived his life well and made not only his body, but also his heart happy too. His exercises can help you find peace, reduce stress, and be present throughout your life. But, if you really get to know Joe, you will fall in love with his way of living too. He was a man who loved his wife, smoked cigars, participated in winter swimming, and being the German he was; drank his beer from a stein in his studio! I just love that!

I think a regimented, determined person who makes a daily effort to stay in shape and includes friendship and love as a hobby can easily live to be 100. Friendship is a gift we should treasure like our health. But think deeper than just the superficial; the core of our hearts must be nourished as well.
In the quest for better health, people can turn to doctors, spirituality, self-help books or herbal supplements. But they sometimes overlook a powerful weapon that could help them fight illness and depression, aide a speedy recovery, slow aging and prolong life; their friends. There is balance with everything! When you find yours, you'll know it!

Prost to friends! Prost to our hearts! Prost to laughter! Prost to Pilates! Prost to our life now!

Dr. Joe's 5 factors to live to be 100
Control the quality of the air we breathe: Air is the number one nutrient for nutrition.
Water: Water regenerates tissue, water restores our health
Food: We need carbohydrates, fats, proteins, vitamins, minerals.... And eat raw food!
Exercise: Delivery System of Nutrition. Exercise forces movement without movement we die quickly.
Nutritional supplements
http://www.proactiveworx.com/ (Dr. Joe Guarnera)

*Prost: German for cheers

Cherish the many faces of love


What is a soul mate? The dictionary says it is: One of two persons compatible with each other in disposition, point of view, or sensitivity. I am quite certain we have more than one soul mate! We are full of all kinds of love; the love for our children, parents, significant other, friends, spiritual love...

Ahh love! I am a romantic at heart! I love to escape into a good romance; Jane Austen is a favorite of mine. And to think, she never married and died at 41! Tragic I think because she wrote of love and like me, craved romance. Austin wrote, "A lady's imagination is very rapid; it jumps from admiration to love, from love to matrimony in a moment." The thing about love is it's easy to get your head stuck in the clouds! I married young, full of romantic ideas. Thinking life would be like a Jane Austen novel! It started out like one, a rescue! What girl doesn't want to be rescued!

My husband, Derek was my John Willoughby in Sense and Sensibility rescuing me from my locked out apartment (yes there is more to that story, but I only share that with people who know me really, really well)! Let me just say it was love at first sight and the romance began!

We would travel (yes, some), cook and drink (absolutely), and have lots of sex (Yes). After the honeymoon I checked marriage off the list and went on to focus on work, check. A little more travel and onto children, check, check! Hello reality! There is no time for romance like there is at the beginning of a relationship when everything is new and you have lots of time for sky rockets in flight afternoon delight!

Jane Austen had all the time in the world to keep her head up in the clouds! It was a different time! We get so busy at work and at home. We get involved in other peoples lives: coworkers, girlfriends, playdates...Our relationship with our husband or significant other can take a back seat. We spend a lot of time apart and confide in those people that we share our day with. But when nourishing that relationship even if only a quick break in the day we find ourselves alone, this reminds us of what brought us together and we can reconnect, and indulge in some romance (if only for a little while).

Investing in nurturing the love you have for your family, girlfriends, and husband is necessary for a happy heart I think.

You know those really good girlfriends you have that you might not talk to all the time but when you reconnect, you pick up right where you left off. Well, they are a gift! I'm one of those people who has just a handful of really close friends and I need each of them and would walk across hot coals for them any day!

Did you ever notice after college how hard it is to make friends and find people you have things in common with? Yes, you can put yourself out there in all kinds of uncomfortable situations! You can join moms groups and clubs galore but I think it's rare to find a soul mate in a friend and when we do we must cherish that friendship! Ultimately, we have to make our own sorority in life! We need our relationships to stay sane in this crazy busy thing called motherhood! Just like in Jane Austen's Sense and Sensibility, the sisters Elinor, Marianne, and Margaret had each other and their mother to get them through their ups and downs of romantic woes.

We need more than just one kind of love; the love of our friends, family, and soul mate make us complete. My husband and I take advantage of our small windows together. This is key in a relationship I believe. I've said this before, my Dad's best advice, give great effort! Well...we have to put forth the effort to foster our relationships or they fizzle, no?

My husband is my best friend, my soul mate, my missing Pac-man piece! Together we make a great team. I want my children to see how important it is to care for our relationships (both friends and family). I say "I love you" when I feel it instead of reserving it for a special time. My daughter loves to see Mommy and Daddy kissing and hugging. It makes her happy to know we love each other! So...go on call your girlfriends, kiss your soul mate, say I love you, and put forth the effort. That's Amore!"